Life is what you make it. You can live in excuses and regrets or you can create the life you’ve always dreamed of. Happy weekend everyone! So I’ve been reflecting a lot lately on my life choices and how I got to where I am, extremely happy to wake up every morning and go do my thing. This is a result of a recent conversation I had with a good friend of mine. She’s working in a job she doesn’t enjoy, but she’s hesitant to leave because she doesn’t want to risk losing a decent income. She’s concerned that if she does, it will take her twice as long to buy a house.
So I asked her these two simple question. Why do you want a house? And what’s more important to you? Being miserable for the next one plus years and having enough money for a down payment, or living everyday happy and enjoying life, taking a few years more to get into the property market? Her answer to my first question came as no surprise. She wanted a house because she was in her mid 30s and that’s what people of her age did. They settled down and bought property of their own.
I’ve never been one to follow the structured path created by society. Instead I’ve made my own rules, challenged myself along the way, embraced every opportunity and grown into a fierce and determined woman. And you know what? I couldn’t be happier!
Two years ago, I made the best decisions of my life. I said goodbye to my 9-5 desk job, ended my rental lease, sold everything I owned – my car, household furniture, kitchenware that would have served me well for years to come, and bought a one way ticket to Canada. I was embarking on my lifelong dream of travel and little did I realise, that my desire of seeing the world, would in fact, turn into self discovery of who I am, and the realisation of what truly feeds my soul.
From a young age I always felt that I was meant to be somewhere else, that I was meant to be discovering the treasures of the world. I could say my curiosity of the wider world started with my parents – my mum from Germany and my dad from Mauritius. I was fascinated with what life was like where they grew up.
When I announced my plans to travel, everyone around me thought I was crazy. “You’re going to travel?… But what about your career?… You’ve got a good job, you may not find another… You should buy some property first, have something secure for your future…”
It occurred to me in that moment that almost everyone I knew had the same perception on how life should be lived. Now that might work for some, but I’ve never been one to fit into the mould of – get an education, settle in a career, buy property, get married and have children. I mean, how do I even know that Australia is where I want to “settle down,” if I don’t see what else is out there? Maybe I’ll discover that Switzerland or Italy is where I feel more at home.
After hearing their comments, I couldn’t help but wonder. Why do we feel the need to follow a structured path that’s been embedded into society? And this goes for all aspects of life.
Like the other day, someone made a comment on my Instagram post, saying that one of my photo’s wasn’t very “travel related.” Firstly, my account doesn’t specify that it’s solely about travel. And secondly, why do I have to fit into the box of a travel Instagram account, just because I do a lot of travel. I realised then, that people will always try and put you into a box of some sort, because that’s what has been the societal norm for so long.
And you know what? It’s more than ok to break that mould. Which is exactly what I’ve done and will continue to do. At the end of the day, it’s my life and nobody but me should have ownership over it.
With 27 countries down and many more to go, every day is a new adventure. For me, long term travel has enabled me to grown as a person, become independent, confident and self sufficient. I have learnt to dream big, never be afraid to fail, to grow and challenge myself, and to keep growing and keep challenging myself. To embrace life’s up’s and downs, the heartache and the rewards, and to know that no matter what, I can achieve everything I set my mind too. The only person who could ever hold me back, is me, and I believe in myself too much to let that happen.
I have realised during my journey of self discovery, that I don’t want to just live in this world. I want to make an impact, I want to be an inspiration to women, I want to give back to the community as much as I can, and I want to remain humble and strong along the way. I know it won’t always be easy, and I’ll make mistakes along the way, but life is a constant learning process, a constant growing process and I fully embrace that.
I’m no longer afraid to take the road less traveled and neither should you. Whatever it is you want to do, whether it’s career focused, travel focused, or maybe you just want to attend a dance class down the street. I say do it! Follow your heart and let it take you to incredible places. As long as you’re happy, then that’s what life is all about!